There is so much written and spoken about the ego and how it is the source of all our pain and suffering. Generally it gets a pretty bad rap! The ego results from our conditioning, that is, our reactive nature that results from external circumstances, in an effort to keep us safe. It is widely believed that the ego is something that we need to transcend or get rid of. In fact, the opposite is true. The ego has been our friend, trying to help us the best way it knows how by trying to defend us when we were not safe. The egos defences are in the form of our flight or fight reactions that are triggered by our amygdala in the “survival” or limbic part of our brain. Flight is when we withdraw from a situation unable to respond from our empowered self. Fight is when we behave aggressively and speak or act in a way that we later regret.
The ego is often like those around us giving us the best they can, with their current level of awareness, not knowing there may be a better or easier way. By developing awareness, love and compassion for our egoic nature and others conditioned behaviour we learn to evolve to be a more expanded, loving version of ourselves. We all do the best that we can with the skills that we have at the time. Instead of pushing against or trying hard to eradicate our reactive nature, if we instead develop love and compassion towards it, it diffuses the reactive energy of the ego and we return to our natural loving state.
We all have an ego and our divine loving essence. When we are able to see these as one, rather than one being good and the other bad we are able to evolve to a whole new level. Not a single part of us is bad or wrong, including our ego. Accepting the ego has resulted from our conditioning, allows us to accept others conditioning. Conversely when we accept the egoic nature of others we accept it in ourselves resulting in self-love. With self-love it is effortless to love others. We only see in others what we see in ourselves. Others are a reflection of us, and indicator of areas where we can evolve if we choose.
The ego is designed to help us evolve: to help us develop humility and compassion. From this solid loving platform, the world will evolve to one of peace and harmony. The ego gives us the skills to do so—it is a gift to us, an integral part of our evolution, from unconscious to conscious—to a new and divine, loving world.
The time has come to embrace our ego with love and kindness and create positive change. Next time you find yourself reacting to something, follow this simple yet powerful three step formula, to make peace with your ego:
- Focus on the energy field in your body. Initially it may be easier for you to focus on your energy field when you are lying down or in nature where you feel more relaxed and it is easier to in tune with what is going on with your body. With practice you will be able to use this technique anytime, anywhere.
Breath into any tension you feel in your body with love and kindness (your true nature). Don’t try to analyse the energy blockage—just be with it in a non-judgemental way. You are not trying to think your way through this process—it is an energetic experience
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. ~ Albert Einstein
- The tension is being driven by repressed emotions that are ready to be let go. This tension (which is trapped emotions) is fuelled by limiting, negative beliefs. Your loving awareness allows the limiting belief to make the shift from unconscious to conscious. As beliefs determine your reality this shift gives you a wonderful opportunity replace the former belief to a conscious one that supports you in living the magnificent life you were born to live.
- This does require time to process our reactions and develop new beliefs however the reward of internal peace and expanded vitality (an internal battle with our ego consumes our energy), are well worth it.
When others are reactive, develop humility and kindness, recognize that this is all part of the process of waking up and we are helping each other to do so!
This is the most exciting time in history, as together we are creating a new peaceful, vibrant and harmonious world.
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