Unconditional love is when we love someone without condition. We live our life as an expression of love regardless of other people. This way of being can inspire others to be who they are, pure unconditional love.
This is not to say that if someone hurts us or treats us badly we endorse that behaviour. We can still love someone unconditionally, however express that a particular behaviour is not acceptable as it is hurting us.
When we have to do something, or be a certain way that goes against our inner love for ourselves, in order to receive love, that love is conditional. Love is being used to manipulate us at our expense. This is when the other person wins, however we lose.
Instead, if we start thinking of love as the behaviour itself, the reward becomes the feeling we get when we act a certain way, not when someone else acts a certain way. We can continue acting this way all the time, regardless of how other people behave, it becomes an act of generosity.
When we behave lovingly we are living as an expression of love—our true nature. Even when unloving behaviour is being exhibited by others we can choose to address this in a loving way. That is, anothers behaviour does not stop us being who we truly are in that is love.
Expressing ourselves lovingly is the essence and foundation of all loving relationships.
In the past many of us have found creating warm, loving, consistent relationship that endure, a major challenge. This is despite our best efforts! Fortunately with deeper understanding of our mind and our emotions this can become a challenge of the past.
When we learn to understand our mind (the source of our pain)—we see that our thoughts are neither good nor bad—they are just thoughts, and not who we really are. If unconscious thoughts are thought frequently enough they will form internal limiting beliefs for us.
No one would ever consciously think thoughts that were not in their best interest. An untrained mind, can take in information without question. It then acts on that information in the best way it knows, with the aim of protecting us. Part of our evolution is to learn that there is a better way. Just as we learn to walk, part of the development of our mind is leaning to train our unconscious mind to be conscious.
Rather than allowing our mind to be our master, we can learn the skill of mastering our mind. Rather than unconsciously acting out the thoughts of our mind, we can realise that we are actually the divine, loving force that observes our thoughts and the resulting emotions. We are greater than our mind, each and everyone of us is divine, loving energy in our true essence.
This is a very exciting time, where because of technology and increased interest, large masses of the population are transcending unconscious ways or being. Like never before it is possible for us to evolve into the fullest, most expanded versions of ourselves—limitless, full and complete. The Yogis refer to this way of being as Ananda. Living in a state of unconditional love.
This is a time where is it possible for us to go beyond stress and tap into love. From this place, it is possible to create beautiful and meaningful relationships allowing us to experience bliss.
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Thanks Deborah for such a beautiful and nurturing post.
Thankyou for your feedback and I am so pleased you found value in this post.
Good point. I hadn’t thguoht about it quite that way. 🙂
These topics can be so confusing but this helped me a lot.
That addresses several of my concerns actually.