We all want to create good family relationships. We can be hard on ourselves when our relationships flag. Fabulous family relations are possible. Sometimes all we need to do is change our viewpoint or make gradual improvements. This can result in big changes, allowing us to feel closer to those we love most.
How we deal with mistakes in our family impacts the bonds we share. This is because how we do this, plays a key role in building our child’s self-esteem. Learning is a part of life and making mistakes is a part of it.
Healthy families grow from fault. Mistakes are times to grow our children’s awareness and teach them new possibilities.
Another key question to ask when creating strong family relationships is how does your family communicate? Does it communicate with love and respect, or do members react aggressively toward each other, or by not speaking to each other to show they are unhappy? Generally, this comes down to the communication skills that the parents have.
As a parent, if you are struggling to connect in your relationships, it is worthwhile doing whatever it takes to develop a peaceful loving relationship with each other (for more in-depth knowledge on this, see my book on relationships, Love Now). As I’ve mentioned, children are like energetic “sponges” and like sponges, they will absorb dirt from family conflict. Not every single little thing, but the overall energy of the family.
When parents handle conflicts poorly, children are liable to suffer lasting negative impacts. Children feeling powerless in relation to their parent being happy may act out. This gives parents a chance to work through unsolved issues and restore peace to the family.
What you do is more important than what you say. It’s probably silly to expect there never will be any conflict; however, modeling sensible solutions can be a valuable skill to pass on to your child.
As with a company, the family culture comes from the top down. If we are not in a good place emotionally, it is still possible to learn the skills to create a peaceful family life going forward.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
~ Albert Einstein
Having a great relationship is just not automatic. However, it can always be improved by learning and practicing new skills. If you are happy with yourself and your partner, that joy will flow over to your children. They were created from love, so nurturing a loving close family culture is definitely possible. Especially when you devote the time and effort to making it a priority in your life.
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Saved as a favorite, I really like your site!
Hi Emile, I am so pleased you like the blog, yes family are a real passion of mine. Thanks for the feedback. All the best Deborah